“I’ve been into this guy for a year, and we’ve sorta dated on and off during that time, but when I’m really into him, he backs off, and when he’s really into me, the timing hasn’t been right for me and I kind of pull back. I care about him, but he has his problems and I’m just getting out of a long term relationship.
Should I try to seriously be with him even though I’m still processing through that last relationship, or should I pull back from him so that his feelings for me don’t grow more?”
-Mindy
Dear Mixed up Mindy,
I am mixed up as well, why in the world would you want to spin your wheels
with a guy who is spinning his wheels?? Seems like you both are trying not to hurt each other’s feelings. Gigantic waste of time (bad news when time is all we have). Then there is the “getting out of a long term relationship”, another waste of time. Why are you “getting” out of it, just GET out and be done, and cut and run from the new guy. Sheesh, the whole thing is so immature. Wake up, go out and enjoy yourself, find some alone time to think. Yoga maybe?
Time is not on your side.
All the best,
Doc Love Lace
